6 Reasons Why Japanese Guys Don’t Often Say I Love You

6 Reasons Why Japanese Guys Don’t Often Say I Love You

Dating people from another country can be exciting and difficult at the same time. When two people who come from different cultures start dating, it is sometimes very difficult to communicate. Foreign women dating Japanese guys often complain that Japanese guys rarely say “I love you.” In this article, I will explain you some of the reasons why Japanese men don’t say “I love you” from the perspective of a Japanese girl who has been dating some Japanese men.



 

6 Reasons Why Japanese Guys Don’t Often Say I Love You

 

1. Japanese guys are mostly shy

It is true that most Japanese guys are shy, especially when it comes to their feelings. They are taught that showing feelings is not very “man-like.” Since their father never showed their feelings either, it feels embarrassing for them to say “I love you.”

 

2. “I love you” is a very serious word

In Japanese language, “I love you” literally translates into “aishiteru.” Yet we rarely say, “Aishiteru”, beside inside the cheesy romantic movies. Not only it sounds strange to say it, it also feels like a very important word for us. When we say, “I love you”, that means we want to spend the life with this person. Instead, we commonly use “suki” which means “I like you.” When a guy tell you “suki” without saying as a friend, it’s safe to presume that “he has a feeling for you.”

 

3. They believe that action speaks louder than words

In Japan, we believe that certain things don’t need to be expressed with words in order to communicate them to other people. It’s because we usually read the signs given by people in their action. Many Japanese guys (also girls) think that acting kindly with love shows that “they love you.” Therefore they don’t necessarily have to say “I love you” all the time.

 

4. They buy you presents or take you out on dinner

Now you know that Japanese guys have another ways of saying “I love you”. In most Japanese guys’ mind, spending money on a girl shows that they love you. If they buy you a present or take you out on dinner, you should take those gestures as them saying “I love you.”

 

5. They listen to what you say

When a Japanese guy remember what you say, it’s another sign that he loves you. When you tell your guy what kind of music you like, for example, he would take you a concert if he remembered. Remembering what you have said shows that he really cares about you so much. I think it is much better than just saying “I love you.”

 

6. They introduce to his friends

Another sure sign that a Japanese guy loves you, even though he doesn’t say it out loud, is when he introduce you to his friends. For Japanese men, the social tie is very important. If he is willing to introduce you to his social circle, that means you are important enough to be part of his life.

 

Conclusion

Because of the cultural differences, it’s sometimes hard to know if a guy, you love, loves you back. Even though Japanese men don’t tell you “I love you” all the time, it doesn’t meant that he doesn’t love you. If you are careful for those small signs, you can read his language of showing how much he loves you.

 

6 Reasons Why Japanese Guys Don’t Often Say I Love You

1. Japanese guys are mostly shy
2. “I love you” is a very serious word
3. They believe that action speaks louder than words
4. They buy you presents or take you out on dinner
5. They listen to what you say
6. They introduce to his friends