10 Moments Japanese Girls Expect Kissing (by a Japanese girl)

10 Moments Japanese Girls Expect Kissing (by a JapaneseGirl)

This topic is very helpful to those who want to understand Japanese way of dating. I will show you 10 magical moments when we expect a kiss, and I represent as typical Japanese girl. But before we start off, let me remind everyone that in Japan, we are too shy to show our emotion compared to those western culture. However, we secretly hope that the guy we like will approach and kiss us at a perfect moment.

If you do not kiss a girl at a perfect time, you would probably (if you are lucky) get demoted to a friend, or less than that. Unfortunately, going back to romantic buddies would be close to impossible. Moreover, don’t be slapped by a girl by doing wrong. Keep in mind, for a Japanese girl, a kiss locks two humans who love each other in an exchange of scents, textures, tastes, sometimes both of secrets and emotions. You may know from your experience but we also kiss lasciviously, furtively, secretly, gently, shyly and exuberantly. If your girl refuses once after your attempt to kiss, it is just actually part of her tactics but honestly she wants you to keep going. It is sort of a trick which you should not fall for. This remains a question even to Japanese men, but honestly, I can’t explain why we do so. I think it is Japanese girl way. We have been learning to say NO once or a few times. If we do not, at least try to refuse, guys might think we are easy. Do you understand how complicated we are? And if you stop kissing, we might wonder “Why?”. You have to make sure what she wants and try to be the one she wants.

NOTE: This is just based on my experience and it does not mean it works to all of Japanese girls.



 

10 Moments Japanese Girls Expect Kissing (by a Japanese girl)

 

1. “KABE-DON”

It is getting very famous in Japan nowadays. “KABE” means wall and “DON” means the sound when somebody pushes something out or hit something. If you are dating a Japanese girl and talking near the wall, you will need to push her GENTLY against the wall. At the same time, you will use your either right or left hand toward to the wall in order to make her surprised by whispering romantic words. Then kiss her.

The best “KABE-DON” is when there is no chance for her to move. You are putting her in a “romantic corner”. Any girl would love to be in that situation. It is also good to stop kissing for a few seconds in front of her face and look into her eyes and mouth, smile to her and finally you will gently give her a kiss. As you are familiar with the latest Japanese drama, you will notice that there are so many situations that actor is doing by referring this “KABE-DON”. Honestly I haven’t lived in Japan for a long time so I have never experienced this, sadly. But a lot of my Japanese friends are pretty much excited about this nowadays. It may not work to a western girl but it definitely works to a Japanese girl. It is just “Wao”. It is because we can’t move even a centimeter since your hand is just beside us. If you happen to meet me somewhere in the world, try to do this to me pretending you haven’t read his article. I will be pretty much surprised! Haha I am just kidding though! But anyhow I assume that this is the most famous kiss situation in Japan now! It is absolutely worth a try to your girl NOW!

 

2. “Bye-Bye Kiss after sending her off”

Imagine you are on a date with a Japanese girl and brought her to a fancy restaurant. I am sure you enjoyed having a romantic conversation. You got to know her more and more. But sadly the time has come to send her off. When you send her off, we are secretly expecting you to take the initiative to kiss us good bye and show how sad you are to leave, saying “It was really fun to hang out with you today. I hope to see you soon. Thank you.” or “I do not want you to go back tonight”. I would definitely advise you to do this at the end of the date to keep her excited and to ask for a date continuously next time. She will be thinking that you are very attractive person and make her happy always. It is obviously up to you how you to deliver it right. We want to make sure how much you are caring about us!

 

3. Kiss in the car during lovely driving

We are shy in public but, more often than not, we are not shy if there is no one surrounding us. It is a good chance for you to kiss your Japanese girlfriend. When you are driving a car, then the traffic light turns red, that’s your cue to kiss her. Don’t hesitate to grab her hand first before kissing her. You have to make the first physical contact. You have to establish the physical contact with your girl before even kissing her. For example, while you are driving, try to show your interest toward her, make sure to grab her hand or to touch her on the shoulder gently. If she did not get away, you get the signal to proceed to the next step.

 

4. Be Latino after argument 

It means most of Latinos are very passionate, optimistic and bubbly. At least one point or another in your life, you had serious argument with your partner and you had no idea how to calm her down. How many times you have apologized but still not forgiven. If this happens again, try to give her an enthusiastic kiss like a Latino. It works especially after argument as we feel like we both want to find ways to make up. I really like this situation. Normally Japanese guys are far from Latino (but don’t get me wrong, they also have advantages like being polite and that topic deserves another article). But be careful not to send a wrong message as she might think you are trying to have sex with her. Many men just use this tactic to fix a relationship. But that is a different story. What I wanted to say is that we like making out after a fight to feel loved and cared but not all of us want to lead it to sex.

 

5. In an elevator

It makes us so excited since there are the just two of us in closed place. The rush of somebody-might-get-in-and-see-us is priceless! What if somebody sees us? In western culture, it is kind of normal that you kiss in front of people in public but we think that it is quiet special when just the two couple alone in a place. Other than that, we feel something like we are one level more intimate as we have a secret to keep. Once the door closed, you can move closer to your girl! How quick can you go? Do make sure not to try in the office as she will be in the real trouble if the boss finds out.

 

6. In the Big wheel

We like rides and our favorite is the Ferris Wheel! When its on the highest position, try to kiss your girl gently and make sure not to forget to whisper some words which can make girl happy. It is much nicer if you do at night time instead of daytime as both of you will be on more romantic mood. You know how nice the scenery is if you are viewing it from the highest position. I have seen a scene on tv when a guy brings one famous model out to the amusement park as a date and he needed to think the way of perfect date. After that, she needed to evaluate whether the dating is perfect or not. As for his date, he brought her to the big wheel and did some arrangement before getting on. He wrote some words on the flower garden which can be seen from the above once they reach to the highest position. He told her “Look at below. It is all for you!”. It was written that “I LOVE YOU”. and when they get off, he gave her a bouquet. He asked the security secretly and told them to pass the bouquet right after they got off. They were not real couple and just pretended to do so. If it happened to me, I might not stop crying.

 

7. In a movie theater

I think movie is a good way to ask for a date to a girl as the first step. We do not feel so much pressure on going to a movie as we focus on watching and continuous conversation is not necessary. If you are on a few times date, this is the best situation to kiss her. If you are watching a romantic movie and there is a kissing scene, try to do the same thing as what you see on the screen. She feels the emotions of the actress so if you put her to the same situation, she would be on a cloud nine! I have one example which happened to me long time ago, I was on a date a guy from Europe and we went for a movie. We booked our seats in the middle row as it is easy to watch the screen but he seemed not comfortable. What happened next? He whispered “I wanted to sit at the last row… then I can be much closer to you without letting everyone know” How sweet is it? We were just 17years old since it was college time. I was pretty blushing the whole time but got to know how sweet he is! Do you wanna give a try?

 

8. At house during cooking 

We love to cook Japanese food for our boyfriend especially if you are a foreigner. While we are cooking, and you are watching TV, or whatever, we expect you to come in to the kitchen to hug & kiss from our back. You can ask her “What are you cooking?” “It looks delicious!” and “I cannot wait for it!” but make sure to get her cook first before you turn her on! She will be definitely happy to cook more for you and I believe your relationship will be much better. But some of girls do not like you to come in to their territory since the kitchen is dominated by ladies? It’s fine by me for my man to come purposely and hug & kiss me. I love it!

 

9. Itterashai kiss

Have you ever heard of “Itterashai”? This is the word we say when the guy leaves for the office in the morning. We send you off and say “Have a good day” or something like that. But most of Japanese couples who already married are doing “Itterashai Kiss”. If it became the routine of the day, no matter how exhausted you are, you will be so happy to do this every day. This is the one of the tips for those who want to have a never-ending-happy marriage. If you live with a partner, try it out starting tomorrow morning! In Japan, the more “Itterashai kiss” in the morning, the more long relationship last according to some article written. It does not need to take heaps of kisses but quick and easy one will do. My parents were doing this even in front of me when I was a kid, and they are still like lovebirds even until now. This is my humble and personal opinion but I am so happy to see that my parents love each other obviously. There is a high rate of divorce here. If only every couple practices “itterashai kiss”, I guess it would somehow prevent divorce.

 

10. A girl put lipsticks

This is kind of sign that you have to notice. When you are on a date and she wants you to kiss her, she will give you some sign. She will look into your eyes and mouth. She will stay a little bit longer around your mouth. Normally and generally, if she is not interested in you, she will look around the room or window and more, she will not look into your eyes and month, right? When she keeps on looking your eyes and mouth. Then if she put her lipsticks while touching her lip and sometimes she poses and touch her hair, just go for kiss her!

 

Conclusion

We are giving you lots of signs which can help you to read our minds. Sorry to guys but if you do not kiss a girl at the right time, you will go back to the friend zone. Even if we say I like you, you still can end up as nothing more than close friends. On the top of this, do not ask us “Can I kiss you?” or something like silly questions. We have no answer for that. It is like you are asking us “Can I continue?” at the time both of us naked. It is obviously silly questions and not showing the manly. We want to know how manly you are and how you are caring us.

If we are not interested in you, we are not going out with you! Be confident and make sure you can do it. As you have gone through till here, you would have noticed the difference of kissing in Japan compared to the western culture. I have read the article from the USA and it says “A kiss does not mean a relationship is going to happen.” It may be so in your culture but we do not kiss as a friend, normally. I think a kiss adds heaps of possibility. As I have written in the beginning, we kiss lasciviously, furtively, secretly, gently, shyly and exuberantly. A kiss mean a lot in Japan. Lastly, to all guys who are now reading this article, I want to voice up something. I have many Japanese girl friends who are dating people from the USA, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, UK, Thailand, Malaysia and etc, they are always confused because of our different culture. Generally, we grew up in Japan which 100% Japanese culture. We do not understand the western culture. They get confused saying “why he does to me?”, “We do not do this between friends.”. Do not make them confused as the way of approach is always different since we are two different humans who grew up in two different countries. If you are in Japan, try to adjust and understand Japanese culture for your girl. Do enjoy and accept these differences. Even if you are not in Japan but dating with a Japanese girl, try to respect each other. Hope this article can help you a bit for your future!

 

10 Moments Japanese Girls Expect Kissing (by a Japanese girl)

1. “KABE-DON”
2. “Bye-Bye Kiss after sending her off”
3. Kiss in the car during lovely driving
4. Be Latino after argument
5. In an elevator
6. In the Big wheel
7. In a movie theater
8. At house during cooking
9. Itterashai kiss
10. A girl put lipsticks