7 Pre-requisite For Marriage of Japanese Women

7 Pre-requisite For Marriage of Japanese Women

What are you going to require for marriage? Some people have a long list of pre-requisite for marriage. As a Japanese woman, I don’t deny having a long list of conditions when it comes to our potential life partners. Here, I would like to talk about some major things our future husband should have!



 

7 Pre-requisite For Marriage of Japanese Women

 

1. Personality

I assume not only for Japanese women but also for anyone in this world care about their potential partners’ personality. Especially Japanese women are more likely to focus on men’s kindness. You might think that typical men try to gain strength in order to support women. But when it comes to marriage, kindness and/or gentility seem to be much more important for Japanese women. In our culture, we communicate very indirectly –that often makes relationships more difficult since it would be very important to “feel” what your partner is thinking. In most of the Western countries, it is common to speak directly –so for those who are from those nations, communicating indirectly and kindly might be the most challenging thing to catch Japanese women’s heart!

 

2. Financial things

Sadly, no matter how much you love your boyfriend/girlfriend, you won’t live without money. Especially if you and your partner would like to have kids, the living cost would be pricy. However, even though it is better to have a financial ability, you don’t have to have too much –money sometimes makes people go crazy. Not only having a good amount of money, many Japanese women care about how you spend them. In other words, it would be better for both of you to have the same money sense. But how women think about financial things is very different depending on people, so you should talk about this before getting married.

 

3. Perspectives

Not only having the sense of money, but also sharing perspectives in general would be one of the most important things that Japanese women are looking for. No matter what you are going to do or even how you feel often depend on your perspectives. People don’t want to spend time together with those who have completely different way of thinking. But luckily, unlike personality, perspectives would change over time. Thus, it is possible that you and your potential partner have different perspectives at first, but after a while, you two become to share the way of thinking. You don’t have to worry too much about this –but just remember that women often care about your perspectives.

 

4. Sharing works

These days, it has been getting more and more common for women to have jobs outside –that often prevent ladies from getting married. In older times, Japanese women were expected to stay at home, take care of kids and elders, do all the housework and dedicate for their husbands. But those are not the case in modern Japan. Many Japanese women want their potential partner to be understood about their jobs and other situations about what they would like to do. In order to live a happy life, it would be important to share work both inside and outside.

 

5. Independence

Independence doesn’t mean not caring others. But a lot of Japanese women are more likely to choose reliable and trustworthy men as their partners. Some people cannot be independent from their parents and go to see them and ask for help all the time. It is wonderful to have a good relationship with your parents, but be careful not to rely too much. You should be independent enough to live by yourself and even with your partner.

 

6. Family-oriernted

This sounds opposite to what I mentioned above –but this is also about family that you and your partner have. Many men seem to be very busy doing their jobs outside and have no time caring about their family members at home. It is important to work hard to earn money and/or do what you want to do, but Japanese women are seeking for your dedication for your family. You don’t have to do special things but having meals together and going out on the weekend would make your family member much happier. It is important to enjoy very ordinary life.

 

7. Sharing cultures and languages

A lot of Japanese women think that one of the biggest merits of having a foreign husband is because their children have much more chances to be more than bilinguals. If you have a partner speaking the same only one language as you do, there would be less opportunities for your kids to be multi-linguals. However, if your children have parents who speak more than two different languages, they are more likely to be fluent in those languages. Moreover, some of them long for what we call “lady first” culture. Even though “lady first” sometimes means that we should protect women since they are powerless, a lot of ladies in Japan love to be treated like a princess. Difference of culture and language sometimes work as obstacles when getting married, but those uniqueness would also be your strong points.

 

Conclusion

From money sense to life style and personality…Japanese women care a lot about their partners. Some of them might also be major requirements all over the world but others are unique in our culture. But after all, many of Japanese women are relatively positive about having foreign partners –I hope you’ll find a wonderful partner here in Japan!

 

7 Pre-requisite For Marriage of Japanese Women

1. Personality
2. Financial things
3. Perspectives
4. Sharing works
5. Independence
6. Family-oriernted
7. Sharing cultures and languages