8 Tips to Lose a Japanese Girlfriend (from a Japanese Girl)

8 Tips to Lose a Japanese Girlfriend (from a Japanese Girl)

In Japan, and I have seen a lot of girls who prefer not to date a Japanese man after being able to date a foreign man. But more often than not, dating outside my race may be a lot to take in because of cultural diversity. What may be acceptable in other countries may be taboo in Japan. So here are a piece of advise to those foreign men out there who are dating Japanese. If you don’t want to lose your Japanese girlfriend, by any opportunity, please avoid these things to happen. But if you want an absolute break up, then by all means, feel free to do any of these. These are the 8 things foreigners do that make us, Japanese girls, cringe.

Disclaimer: The contents in this article do not call for judgment whether it is right or wrong but it is to be understood as an example of cultural differences.



 

8 Tips to Lose a Japanese Girlfriend (from a Japanese Girl)

 

1. Blow your own trumpet (Boast and talk about yourself too much especially your accomplishments)

In foreign lands, being proud of your own achievement may not be considered as boasting. In Japan, humility is given importance and a person who boasts all the time is often disliked. It is perceived that real achievers are the ones who are humble and those who blows their one trumpet shows a sign of insecurity…

 

2. Be late!

Being on time is really important in Japan. Although there are some instances that Japanese might be a little late because of unavoidable situations like delayed trains, Japanese are 99.5% on time. In Japan, if you are not 5 minutes early, then you are considered late. Being 5 minutes early shows politeness to the person you are meaning with.

 

3. Be Jack of All Trade, Master of None

Some people may think that persistence may not be good but getting fed up or loosing interest in something easily is considered not good in Japan. There is a Japanese proverb “Keizoku wa Chikara Nari ” which means piling up the things you can do becomes your power and so a person who exerts effort is usually highly rated.

 

4. Say it though you absolutely don’t mean it.

So you thought, “Oh, I wanna do that…” or “I want this…” and the words just came out of your mouth. In other countries, it may be natural to say something you feel or think but in Japan, you will be responsible for every word you say and it is a custom that people are always expected to put into action whatever they say they will. For example, if you say “Let’s go to the museum next month”, your girlfriend will remember that until next month and will ask you the following month. “So when are we going to the museum?” But if you answer “Museum? Do you want to go?“ , this will really confuse her..

 

5. Be a mama’s boy! Always bring up your mom in your conversation.

Abroad, a momma’s boy is sometimes considered good because it is a way of expressing respect to one’s parent but when one always says “Coz’ my mom says so….” or “My mom always did …. to me” and starts comparing, Japanese woman usually gets fed up. Respecting and honoring one’s parent is considered a very noble act but being too compliant, one may be seen as being too dependent and when one compares to his mother, the girl might say “I am not your mother” so being careful of these things may be helpful.

 

6. Be emotional and vent out to her all the time

Sometimes, being emotional could mean being passionate and it could be romantic but be careful when you are unloading your baggage to someone, hearing too much complaints gets painful to anyone. Especially on things which are not related and taking one’s anger out to people like a child could be very disrespectful. There is a tendency for Japanese women to misunderstand things so telling her about your dilemma might give her an impression that you blame her for what happened.

 

7. Be a jealous psycho boyfriend

When you love someone so dearly, there is a tendency for deep jealousy to take place very naturally. However, if that jealousy comes out in words, it may bring harm to anything. The bondage of jealousy could make someone think that he or she is not being trusted.

 

8. Impose your religion

This could be a very hard problem. It is a good thing to make your girlfriend understand what your religion is but with the religion free Japanese, this would not be very easy. You could show the goodness of your religion to your girlfriend without giving her pressure by showing it in your ways and action and who knows one day, she could possibly join and be one with you in your religion.

 

Conclusion

So there you go! Knowing what your girlfriend like or hate is one of the most important things especially for international Japanese couples. Hope this article is useful for you whether you want a break up or not.

 

8 Tips to Lose a Japanese Girlfriend (from a Japanese Girl)

1. Blow your own trumpet (Boast and talk about yourself too much especially your accomplishments)
2. Be late!
3. Be Jack of All Trade, Master of None
4. Say it though you absolutely don’t mean it.
5. Be a mama’s boy! Always bring up your mom in your conversation.
6. Be emotional and vent out to her all the time
7. Be a jealous psycho boyfriend
8. Impose your religion