7 Interesting Cultures of Japanese Wedding You Don’t Know

7 Interesting Cultures of Japanese Wedding You Don't Know

In each country, there are different traditions to celebrate a wedding. Therefore you may ask what to do or what to wear if you are invited to or having a wedding in the foreign country. Although most Western countries have similar Christian weddings, how we celebrate a wedding in Japan is very different. There are two ways of celebrating a wedding: Japanese traditional style wedding and Christian church wedding. Even though many people choose a western style church wedding nowadays, there are customs that is unique in Japan. If you are attending a wedding in Japan, it’s important to know those customs. It’s even more important to know how the wedding goes in Japan if you are getting married in Japan so that you will know what to expect. I will tell you 7 things you should keep in mind about Japanese wedding from a native perspective.



 

7 Interesting Cultures of Japanese Wedding You Don’t Know

 

1. We don’t have to be religious to get married in Church

Although majority of Japanese are Buddhist or Shintoist, there are many couples who choose to have Christian wedding in a Church or in a Chapel. In fact, many people (especially women) want to get married in Western style. Japanese girls dream of wearing a beautiful white dress and walking down the aisle, just like many girls in Western countries. Unlike in the West, on the other hand, most Japanese people don’t mind if they are not really Christian. It’s just trendy to get married in Church. Although many Western people think a Shinto-style, traditional wedding is cool, keep in mind that Japanese girls might prefer a Church wedding.

 

2. We must invite the colleagues and the bosses from work

In Western county, a wedding is a personal event that you invite close people and families. In Japan, however, we must invite our colleagues and the bosses from work, even though they are not particularly close. For Western people, a wedding is a personal event. In Japan, it’s also a ceremony of social ties. It’s an occasion for us to tell the society that two people became a family. In most wedding, our bosses from work play an important role of giving a speech in the wedding.

 

3. Japanese wedding can be quite expensive

For those who will get married in Japan, there is one thing you should keep in mind; Japanese wedding is quite expensive. The average cost of Japanese wedding is 333,7000 yen (27,803$). Some rich Western people might spend more than that for a wedding, but most people spend less 10,000$ for a wedding. If you are having a wedding in Japan, you should make sure to save enough money for it.

 

4. What to wear

If you are invited to a wedding in Japan, you should wear formal wear, just like in many Western countries. Men wear a tux or black formal suit. There are more choices for women. They can wear formal dress, suits or kimono. You can also wear kimono in a Western style wedding. Because Japanese people are more conservative than Western people, it’s better to choose the dress with less skin exposure. Many Western dresses might be too sexy for Japanese wedding, in fact.

 

5. Don’t bring any gift, give them cash

When you are invited to a wedding, you think about what to give to a happy couple. In Japan, however, we usually don’t give gifts for a wedding. We give them cash. The minimum amount of money we give to a happy couple is 30000 yen. Of course you can give them more than that if you wish. When one of your family members gets married, it’s preferable to give them more. Buy a special envelop called shugi-bukuro. Write your name on it and put the money inside. You will leave it at the reception, when you sign the guestbook.

 

6. Reception party (kekkon hiroen)

After the ceremony there will be a reception party just like in Western countries. However, Japanese reception party is very formal. Usually full-course meal will be served. Many people will give speech to the happy couple. Contrary to most of Western reception party, people don’t usually dance during the reception party. It’s very common for bride to change her dress as well (this explains the high price of wedding).

 

7. After parties

In Japan, the reception party only lasts for few hours. It usually ends at the beginning of evening. As I told you earlier, the reception party is usually a formal party. After the reception parties, the after parties will be held in different place. The after parties are more casual parties where people drink and talk freely. That’s also where people play games and dance.A couple invites all of their friends to the after parties, because only limited number of people that they can invite to a wedding and the reception. Those parties look more like a Western reception party, in which people have a great, fun time.

 

Conclusion

A wedding is a special occasion of celebrating a happy moment in our life. It would be great to know all the customs of different traditions before attending a wedding. Although some Japanese weddings look similar to Western weddings, there are many things that are different. It would be better to know all those differences, in order to save you from embarrassment. On top of that, if you were actually having a wedding in Japan, it would be important to know all the customs so that you would know what to expect. I hope you will have a great moment in Japanese wedding!

 

7 Interesting Cultures of Japanese Wedding You Don’t Know

1. We don’t have to be religious to get married in Church
2. We must invite the colleagues and the bosses from work
3. Japanese wedding can be quite expensive
4. What to wear
5. Don’t bring any gift, give them cash
6. Reception party (kekkon hiroen)
7. After parties